The Narcissist’s Predictability Is Our Guidebook to Peace

Your life has been altered by a narcissist. The world was under the influence of one for four years. If you are fortunate enough to have avoided close interpersonal relationships with narcs you may imagine a narc in broad terms based on…


Now What? Life After The Mueller Testimony

My social media feed is strangely quiet in terms of aftershock from Mueller’s testimony. Maybe this is a good sign. I wonder if people are considering. Since the media tends to clump ideas and reduce complex issues to talking points and sound bites…


The End? #MeToo

One day before the midterm elections I entered a waiting room to join about 8 witnesses who were there to defend Dr. B. They were there because of me. The door not yet shut behind me; a witness that knew my face spoke loudly, “Wendy you need…


What Money Buys — Aspen, Co

I’ve been in Aspen, CO mingling with the 1% for a couple of weeks. Each day I drive by a boutique airport of private jets. The folks who keep them keep an extra car too, often a Bentley or Ferrari. One need only go…


Rilke said, “Let everything happen to you. Beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.”

This morning the news tells (again)that the world is ending. The monster is still at the helm. Reasonable people in the media compliment the creature when he does something that is not morally…


The Snobbery of Light

A Google search reveals a snob to be, “a person who believes that their tastes in a particular area are superior to those of other people.” I wonder how having an ideal is different, or do the concepts interlock?

My treasured moment comes in hazy recollection…


We must take seriously that the death of the human heart is a sign of the time we live in. There are only two ways to respond to brutality, malice, life on the line, and violence: one can keep the heart open and by doing so feel the world and…


Something is wrong with the clockwork. Last week I turned 50. Weeks earlier I flip-flopped between being bored by the idea of sex and having a crush on everyone. I just bought reading glasses that don’t help. Two days ago I did something that I do all the time only…


Commanding is the word that comes to mind as I reach the top of the staircase at The Phillips House where with long necks and tempered enthusiasm well dressed art enthusiasts are examining a collection of Renoir paintings. As if plucking long stiff legs from wet sand they move like…


Billionaires will not be boarding Southwest flight 1151 to Dallas today. This plane departs from New Mexico, not Denmark. The rich fly their own jets. Schlub amongst schlubs if any difference should exist it is that my poverty is voluntary, a sign of my privilege, an action rooted in a…

Wendy Tremayne

Habits — Contemplation, Embodiment, Art. Author of The Good Life Lab

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